Surrender
"Surrender is a journey from the outer turmoil to the inner peace"
Hi Friend!
In the beginning of my healing journey, I kept hearing the word surrender and was advised to surrender the rock(s) I was carrying. One of the biggest pieces of wisdom that I learned while surrendering, i the power of freewill and the beauty I felt in the surrender for what is and what is to come.
Due to my anxiety, I used to be this person… A person who needed to plan ahead for most things. I liked that things were in order and most of the time— my way. I felt safer when I could control the outcomes, manage and predict reactions and situations. More than usual, I liked to always have a plan B and have something to fall back on. I wanted to understand, analyze, conceptualize everything. Uncertainties daunted me and the idea of being perceived as misunderstood and confused frightened me.
A big misconception about surrendering is that surrendering is about inaction, indifference and passivity.
It isn’t sitting on the couch and bawling your eyes out and expecting someone to come and save/rescue you. It isn’t scrolling on Tiktok/Instagram to pass time during a job search, hoping a job magically lands in front of you. Surrendering does not undermine laziness, toxic behaviors, low self esteem, lack of accountability towards our healing, desires, shadows and goals. Surrendering involves a deep awareness of acceptance and a consistent decision to release the outcomes and expectations that holds our minds hostage. It is about witnessing and holding the vision firmly, yet not letting the mind underpin the process and pathway to arrive at that vision.
On contrary, the art of surrendering is action-oriented. It is about holding the frequency of deep trust. It is planting the seed of deep acceptance. It is intention-setting. Surrendering is leaning into your feminine flow. It is about being and holding the vision that what is yours will always magnetize towards you. It is all-encompassing. It is having the courage to ask, to receive and to create momentum for it to fall through.
It is the holding of spaciousness and lightness even in the perils of uncertainty.
The Art of Surrender: Cultivating Trust in the Face of Uncertainty
As you know, I place so much emphasis on connection and gratitude. Both of these notions can help to explore how these principles can support the process of letting go of control.
Connecting Principles to The Art of Surrender:
Connection: My mission emphasizes the importance of "deep CONNECTION. In the context of surrender, we can broaden this idea of connection to encompass a sense of trust in something larger than ourselves—whether that be a higher power, the natural order of the universe, or simply the belief that life unfolds as it should. Cultivating this sense of connection can provide a sense of peace and acceptance when things feel out of our control.
Gratitude: The statement "GRADITUDE and CONNECTION generate change" suggests that practicing gratitude can be a powerful force for transformation. When we surrender to the present moment, accepting what is without resistance, we open ourselves to a deeper appreciation for life's simple joys and blessings. This shift in perspective can foster a sense of peace and contentment even amidst uncertainty.
Strategies for Practicing Surrender:
Acknowledge Your Limits: Surrender begins with recognizing that we are not in control of everything. Acknowledge your limitations and accept that there are forces at play beyond your direct influence.
Focus on What You Can Control: While we cannot control every outcome, we can control our responses to life's challenges. Shift your energy from worrying about things you can't control to taking positive actions in areas where you can make a difference.
Practice Acceptance: Resistance to what is only creates suffering. Practice accepting the present moment without judgment, even when it feels challenging. This doesn't mean giving up or resigning yourself to negativity, but rather choosing to approach the present with a sense of openness and curiosity.
Connect with a Sense of Trust: Surrender requires cultivating a sense of trust in something larger than yourself. This could involve deepening your spiritual practice, connecting with nature, or simply choosing to believe that life is happening for you, not to you.
Embrace Gratitude: When we focus on what we're grateful for, it shifts our perspective away from worry and control. Take time each day to appreciate the good in your life, no matter how small.
Remember, surrender is not about giving up; it's about letting go of the need to control everything and trusting that life will unfold as it should. By cultivating connection, practicing gratitude, and embracing the present moment, you can begin to experience the freedom and peace that come from surrendering to the flow of life.
What are you holding onto or trying to control?
XO Jenna
